Relationships and Connection
Building Better Relationships with Yourself and Others
Even the strongest relationships go through rough patches where couples feel lonely, disconnected and stuck.
Everyone yearns for a sense of belongingness and security. Good relationships with others always starts with a healthy relationship with one self. Only when we understand and appreciate ourselves will others start to feel the same. Only then will we be able to communicate from a place of understanding and authenticity rather than fear. A relationship built on trust can be achieved where each person feels that they have been heard and understood. The path to change may be long and sometimes a little painful but through couples therapy, communication can improve, trust can be rebuilt and the bond between a couple can be strengthened.
How Can I Help You?
I am a counsellor and coach who works with individuals and couples with a focus on relationships, conflict resolution, and individual growth. I believe in working with and empowering individuals to develop new coping strategies that will improve and enhance their lives.
I work with clients to explore their pasts, patterns and personalities so that they have a better understanding of their values, of their strengths and of areas where they would like to improve.
I use the Gottman Method with my clients to help them communicate with each other effectively, respond to conflict the right way, build trust, understanding and intimacy as well as learn and grow together with intention.
I've created a Pre-Marital program incorporating SYMBIS and Gottman Method framework in order to give couples a smart start to marriage, living together or long term commitment.
Benefits of Counselling
Self-Exploration and Self-Discovery
Seeing a counsellor provides you with the opportunity to learn about yourself and gain a greater understanding into your personality, values, and beliefs. It allows you to increase self-awareness and insight into your own role in the problems you may be facing and awareness is key to change. It encourages you to embark on a personal journey toward personal growth.
Change of Self-Defeating Patterns
Sometimes we have thought-patterns or habits that are contributing to our problems in life. Counselling can help bring about awareness of the thoughts, emotions, and behaviours that revolve in a never-ending cycle of self-defeat. With awareness, you can learn what steps are needed to take action and regain control over your behaviours in order to enhance more positive change.
Better Expression and Management of Emotions
Whether you are dealing with depression, anxiety, stress, or anger, counseling can help you identify, express, and better regulate your emotions. Through an increased awareness of triggers, understanding of maladaptive coping, and modeling of related situations, you can learn to express and cope with your emotions in a healthy way. This way you can prevent escalation of negative emotions that may lead to unhealthy behaviors.
Learn Effective Life Skills
There is an infinite amount of skills that you can learn through counseling that are useful in everyday life. These range from problem-solving and conflict resolution skills to communication and interpersonal skills. Counseling provides a safe environment to learn, practice, and experiment with these skills before applying them to real situations outside of sessions. These ultimately lead to better overall wellness for the body, mind, and spirit.
Receive Support and Validation
Your session will be a safe, non-judgmental and caring space for you to feel comfortable with disclosure of personal matter. It is a place where you don’t have to worry about being judged, ridiculed, or put down. Your emotions are validated, your situations are normalised, and you will be reassured that you are not alone.
Most of us have experienced some sort of insecurity about our appearance, abilities, skills, or personality traits in our lifetime. Focusing on the negative aspects of ourselves can make us blind to the positive traits we have. Although we all may have something we don’t like about ourselves, through counselling, we can also learn to accept our flaws and imperfections as a part of being human. With self-acceptance comes self-love, self-compassion, and a stronger sense of self-confidence. You will be able to improve your weaknesses by building upon your strengths.
Guidance in Finding Purpose
What is the greater meaning in life? The answer to this question is unique to every individual. For those that are in an existential crisis or are grieving a loss usually experience a temporary loss of self/identity. Through exploration of values, beliefs, interests, and memories, counseling may help you rediscover your purpose, passion, and meaning in life.
Fosters Hope and Motivation
Whether you feel completely and utterly hopeless or just need a little boost, counseling can help. Without hope or motivation, our lives can appear to be falling apart because we struggle to take action or make change due to not seeing the point in trying. However, counselors can help spark some motivation by bringing awareness to positive achievements in the present and past to strengthen hope for the future self, future relationships, and future life.
What Clients are Saying
I was feeling overwhelmed after my divorce due to managing legal complications, trying to make ends meet financially and struggling with new relationships.
Jeanette’s style of coaching has assisted the situation and helped me to overcome difficult times with my ex husband and the processing of my life’s patterns. Our sessions are professional and personal at the same time and regardless of the many obstacles, I feel my love for life has returned and Jeanette helped me develop a clearer understanding of myself that has helped me get back on track. I have been able to figure out my priorities in my personal and professional life. Jeanette guided me in working out my strengths and what I truly want out of life.
Thank you Jeanette for all your patience and kindness as well as helping me get my feet back on the ground with confidence and a new zest for life! I am so grateful for all the learning you have offered me along the way. It has been a privilege having you guide me through my many difficulties. Your enthusiasm and passion for coaching is clearly apparent and gratifying for those who are exposed to it, thank you again.
Nicola, Hong Kong
How does the Pre-Marital Program work?The SYMBIS Assessment is online and will take each of you around 45 minutes to complete (separately). The report will then be generated we will be able to go through the report together over a number of sessions. We can usually complete pre-marital counselling in 6 – 10 sessions, depending on the couple, the number of issues and our pace. There's no right or wrong or fast or slow to this. Every couple works at their own speed and have different things to unpack and learn.
How long will therapy take?This will depend on you and what difficulties you are bringing to the office. Some people are focused on short-term therapy while others are open to longer-term work. Some may choose to come in every week, bi-weekly, or even monthly. There may be times where I suggest clients come in on a weekly basis initially and then have the frequency taper off. It will really depend on your needs, whether it be only one session, short, or long term. Regardless of your initial thoughts, it is important to remember that change takes both work and time.
What are some common warning signs my relationship may be in trouble?This list is in no way exhaustive! Communication problems that include lack of progress, shutting down, or increased hostility Fighting about the same things over and over but nothing ever getting resolved Worrying that your future dreams, goals, and aspirations are not aligned Betrayal, infidelity, or trust issues Lack of love, passion, intimacy, affection and romance
Does Pre-marital Counselling work?Here are a few facts: 76% of married couples say they wish they had pre-marriage education. Couples who do not receive pre-marriage education are more likely to see their problems as atypical and unsolvable. 41% of divorced couples say lack of pre-marriage preparation contributed to their divorce. So does pre-marriage counselling work? Absolutely. Research conclusively shows that couples who succeed gain the knowledge they need before they settle into destructive patterns that often lead to divorce. In fact, couples are 31% less likely to get divorced if they get some sort of pre-marriage training before they marry. Not only that, couples who participate in pre-marriage programs experience a 30% increase in marital success and fulfilment over those who do not participate.
How long are sessions?A typical individual counselling or coaching session lasts for 50 minutes. Couples sessions may be longer at 80 minutes. It is recommended that couples choose to do the longer sessions, however, if there are time or financial restrictions, then they can also opt for the shorter session time.
Are sessions kept confidential?Counsellors and coaches are bound by confidentiality, which means that unless you are a danger to yourself or others, what you say in the therapy room stays in the therapy room. This usually makes it much easier to discuss your issues. Going to therapy does not mean that you are “crazy”; quite the opposite, it means that you are acknowledging you have a problem in your life you would like to deal with, rather than letting it get worse.
I've never been to counselling before, what should I expect?Sessions tend to have a relaxed feel to them. Typical sessions are focused on you and the issues that you feel are most pressing. In the initial session, I will start off by asking you questions regarding your reasons for coming into therapy and specifically what you would like to work on. In subsequent sessions, what we do will depend on what issues are being addressed and where we are in therapy. We may discuss your thoughts and feelings or the session may be centered around skill-building and psycho-education. No matter what, the session is always centered around you feeling safe and building hope. It takes courage to go and talk to a therapist, but the rewards are usually worth the risk of telling someone else about your life. Most importantly, counsellors and psychotherapists are trained to help people with a wide variety of difficulties and situations.
What will we cover in the Pre-marital Program?Some topics that we will cover include: Marriage Mindset Self-concept and Personality Longevity and Stability Stress Unrealistic Expectations In-law Relationships Finances Role Expectations Sex Communication Conflict Management Parenthood Shared Meaning and more!
How many sessions do couples normally need?The number of sessions and their frequency will be discussed and reviewed periodically. However, with couples counselling, initial assessment normally takes the following timeline: Session 1: Couples joint session (90 minutes) Session 2: Individual A session (60 minutes) Session 3: Individual B session (60 minutes) Session 4: Couples feedback session (60 minutes) Sessions 2 and 3 can take place in the same day or week so that we can save time. You will see that the assessment portion will take some time and energy but we have found that this is a really important part of our couples therapy and it really pays off to spend this time to identify the issues rather than diving straight in.
What happens during a regression?Quantum healing hypnosis differs from other hypnosis techniques as it works with the somnambulistic level of trance. This state is reached naturally twice a day (just before you wake up and just before falling asleep). It is when working at this level that you may experience one or more lives. We then continue to make a connection to your Higher Self (referred to as the 'Subconscious' or 'SC' by Dolores Cannon) who knows everything about you! Sometimes mental and physical ailments are rooted in trauma from past lives; sometimes they are connected to lessons being learned in a person’s present life. The SC reveals the cause and will assist according to any soul’s particular lessons. More information can be found on the QHHT website.
What exactly is the Subconscious or SC?QHHT enables all people from any background, culture, religion or belief system to engage with what she called The Subconscious, since it resides beyond the conscious mind. Dolores’s term The Subconscious, which she later abbreviated to The SC, is that greater part of ourselves that is always connected to The Source, or God. This is the part of you that holds all your answers. It is all knowing. It knows your past, all of your past and future lives, this life's purpose and lessons and is ideally positioned to assist you with your current life health issues and challenges. It is with the SC that we can discover the connections of those other “lives” to your current life situation, ask questions and get appropriate healing (if it’s appropriate for the client at the time of the session). Just imagine what it would be like to have someone who knows you better than you do, powerfully on your side, keen to step up and give you the answers you have been seeking and the healing you deserve? This is your Higher-self and I would like to introduce you and facilitate your healing journey using QHHT.
Who can come for a session?Anyone above 16 years old. Some illnesses not suitable for QHHT: Schizophrenia, multiple personality order.
How can the SC help me?Once the Subconscious (SC) has been contacted during a QHHT® session, I will then ask it to identify and explain the cause behind any problem, and then ask the SC if it is permissible and possible to heal the condition. If the SC agrees, healing is immediate, without discomfort, medication or surgery. In many cases, once the SC reveals the source of the ailment or psychological problem, a release occurs in the subject’s body and mind, and the patient is freed form their condition. Many of Dolores Cannon’s thousands of clients and subjects were healed in this seemingly miraculous manner and wrote to her to over the years to thank her. That is why she began teaching QHHT® in 2002, to share it with others so that they could continue the practice and in turn help as many people as possible. In all cases, before healing can occur, an individual must want to be cured. The healing also cannot interfere with the lessons of their present life or the contracts they made before incarnating. Our souls are eternal and we come to Earth to grow and learn lessons through individual experiences. An example of a conflict in healing could be the Subconscious not agreeing to restore the sight of a blind person if that was one of the lessons they agreed to learn before incarnating in their present life. The Subconscious also adheres to a literal approach regarding healing. If a subject is experiencing a condition that is the result of abuse or lack of care for their body, and the person has taken no action to correct this and has no desire to change, the Subconscious is aware. Its logic will dictate that there is no point in healing the condition if the subject is just going to resume abusing the body once it is healed. (courtesy of qhhtofficial.com)
How long will the session be?The whole journey will take around 4-5 hours, sometimes even longer. · We begin by talking, allowing me to get to know you and the important events/people in your life, · We then progress into the hypnosis part of the session. You get comfortable and relaxed, facilitated by Tibetan singing bowls and breathing exercises. You'll then be guided into a deep relaxation using words and imagery to journey into your session. The hypnosis can last up to 2 hours. · Afterwards, we go over what was experienced and I make sure you are awake and grounded.
What if I can't get regressed?According to Dolores, over 90% of clients are able to get regressed and are able to see other lives. As your facilitator, I will support you and will help you work through any blockages that you may have that is stopping you from having the regression experience. For example, if there is an issue with visualisation, then I would incorporate other methods to support you in this aspect. Client experiences during hypnosis have shifted dramatically in the last few years Many clients now feel like they were awake during the whole hypnosis (or at least a part of it). The reason for this change is due to the shift in consciousness for all of humanity. Suzanne Spooner, moderator of Dolores Cannon’s Professional Support Forum for Practitioners, talks about this shift on her YouTube channel.
How should I prepare for my session?Once you have booked your session, you will be sent an email with information that will assist you in getting the most out of your QHHT session. I will also send you Pre-session Contemplation Questions to complete prior to the session so that we can have the best session possible. I appreciate that this is an investment of your time.
How many sessions do I need?Healing transformations are gentle and will continue for 3 nights following the session with ongoing improvements as informed by your higher-self. Usually only one QHHT session is required so no repeats necessary unless you wish more information or to address new issues at a later date.
What does a regression feel like?Having a regression is very much like participating in a long, very detailed and involved daydream. You will feel as if you have just returned from an amazing journey, having visited your past or other worlds and lifetimes and in fact you will have done just exactly that! It is best to have some time to process your experience and give yourself an opportunity to fully return to your regular conscious day-to-day reality before attempting any complex mental tasks or strenuous physical activity.
Where will the session be held?The session with either be held in my home office which is equipped with a comfortable living room space for the interview portion of the session and also a hypnotherapy room. If you prefer to have it session done at a therapy space, that can be done at an additional cost.
Will the session be recorded?The hypnosis portion of the session will be digitally recorded. After you leave, I will review the sound file and send you a link to your selected email address to download the file. Please download your file as soon as you receive the link and make a back up copy. Listening repeatedly to your session recording in the days and weeks and even months after your session is an important part of the experience. Even if your conscious mind remembers the session immediately afterwards, it can, just as some dreams can, begin to fade from your memory even if you had an “unforgettable” experience. Also, any healing or life improvement suggestions can and will be reinforced by listening repeatedly to the audio. The goal is to have your conscious mind “get on board” and align with your Higher Self and and its goals, and accept any changes or healing you intend to occur.
Why come for a QHHT session?There are many reasons why people are interested in QHHT. Some people are looking for help with healing physical issues or diseases. Other people have emotional issues or relationship problems. Some people want to know what their life purpose is, or whether they are on the right path. Still others have questions about reality and consciousness itself and are looking for answers. A QHHT Session is a transformative and powerful experience. It will open your mind, heart and imagination. It will allow you to have great clarity towards life and to make changes that support your growth in all levels.
Can I bring my partner of friend to my session?Your session is a private session. Even though your spouse/partner/friend wants to be with you to witness this amazing experience, it is a place where you need to feel completely safe that your confidentiality in all matters is observed. No matter how comfortable you are with that person, you may find that you are less able to share intimate details about your life. Because of this, and in order to make the most of the session, you are not allowed to bring anyone to your session. You may share your recording or any memories or thoughts later at your discretion.
Do you have a cancellation policy?I do have a cancellation policy. This can be a very sensitive topic for some people so please let me explain the policy. Your scheduled session is reserved for you. By the time we are within a few days of your session, my personal and professional schedules have been arranged around your session. Consequently, I have to draw a firm line at cancellation 24 hours prior to your session. At that point, I consider you as having purchased that time even if you end up not being able to attend. This would also apply to sessions that have been scheduled less than 24 hours in advance. I am happy to make arrangements to do tele-therapy by phone or online video if that accommodation would allow you to not miss your session. I understand that we are all busy and life can sometimes get in the way, however, I truly believe that counselling would only be a benefit to you and would like you to be committed to the process and our agreements. For QHHT sessions, I block the whole day out for you so I require at least 5 days notice if you need to cancel or reschedule.
What forms of payment do you accept?At the moment, I accept payments through Paynow to my UEN or direct bank transfer.